Boy friend or Boyfriend? Difference??? Obviously!
But how often have I seen the difference become muddy, confusing, and just plain dangerous to friendships - especially friendships within the Christian community.
So here's where my observations regarding this topic have brought me in my own relationships as well as others...
Requirements:
Never make assumptions
Set up front expectations of only friendship
Build the relationship around being brother and sister in Christ
Be comfortable talking about the significant other or interests
Now...this works great in most cases, but what about when one of you wakes up one day and goes, "Oh my goodness! I think I'm in love with (friend's name here). You know it happens! Cause think of all those couples you know that started out as "just friends"...and you've heard all those people who say "friendship is the best basis for any romantic relationship - yada yada yada!" Oh, and I can't forget about the friends who patiently waited for their friend to have that aha moment and are now successfully married to him/her...
So THAT then brings me to the conclusion that the only way to deal is open, honest communication at ALL times! And when in doubt, ask! and pray that it doesn't mess anything up!!!
Cause truth is...I love my boy friends, my brothers, if you will...I'm thankful for the different perspective on life they provide, and I don't want anything to mess that up...so - Thanks guys!!! I value your friendships just as they are!!!
