Tuesday, July 22, 2008

Worth It???

What is a frienship worth to you???

I believe that an acquaintance is someone you may run in the same circles with, someone you just sorta run into, sometimes regularly, sometimes not.
A friend, on the other hand, is someone you invest in, someone you are willing to put out time and energy to get to know, set aside a random responsibility to spend time with, support, pray for regularly, listen to, etc.

Based on the above activities, I believe it takes work to build a friendship, any friendship, and the more time you spend with someone, the more opportunities arise for conflict, so it takes more work to resolve them. I think it’s a circular equation…more time = closer = more conflict = more work which requires more time and round and round it goes...
And ultimately, each member of a friendship is required to determine if it’s worth it…
“Is the value of this friendship worth the work I’m putting in?”

Envision a pool of time and energy inside of you – It’s all you’ve got to give…and of all the people in your life, you have to choose who you will give it to…can’t be all of them…cause that pool isn’t the size of an ocean?!?

And sometimes the answer to the above question becomes “no”…
Sometimes different chapters of life bring to the forefront the need for different friendships…
And maybe not right away…but over the course of time… you determine it's time to redirect some of that time and energy…and sometimes there really is no in between...no real option to be only half the friends you were before...and ever trying to go back is not exactly easy...